Most advice for pre meeting nerves tells you to calm down, breathe, relax. Research on performance anxiety found a different move works better, and it takes exactly one sentence. It's probably not the sentence you're reaching for right now.
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Most advice for pre meeting nerves says to calm down, breathe, relax. Research on performance anxiety found a different move works better, and it works with your body's actual state instead of against it. It takes one sentence, and it's not the sentence most people reach for.
Alison Wood Brooks, a researcher at Harvard Business School, ran experiments across public speaking, karaoke, and math performance, and found something the body already knew before the mind caught up. Anxiety and excitement are physiologically almost identical. Both are high arousal states, a faster heartbeat, heightened alertness, a keyed up feeling. What differs is the label attached to it, not what your body is actually doing.
Here's the problem with trying to calm down. Moving from that high arousal state all the way down to calm fights what your body is already doing. It rarely works cleanly, and that's part of why calming down before something that matters is so hard to actually pull off.
So what works instead. Brooks found that people instructed to relabel the same feeling as excitement, rather than trying to suppress it, performed better across every version of the experiment. They were rated as more persuasive, more competent, and more confident, by observers who had no idea which instruction the person had been given. The shift moves someone from a threat mindset, focused on what's likely to go wrong, to an opportunity mindset, focused on what's likely to go well, using nothing more than a different word for the exact same physical state.
And to be clear, this isn't just positive thinking. It works specifically because it doesn't fight the arousal itself, only its meaning. Telling yourself to be calm when your body is clearly not calm creates a mismatch you then have to manage on top of everything else. Telling yourself you're excited matches what's actually happening, and gives it a more useful direction.
Here's where to start. Right before your next high stakes moment, say, once, either out loud if the setting allows it or silently if it doesn't, that you're excited about this. Not a longer pep talk. One line, said with the arousal you're already feeling, rather than against it. Notice what changes, not necessarily how you feel internally, but what you actually do differently once you've said it.
That's the pattern for this one. Saying the words is the easy part. Actually getting yourself to believe them in the moment is the part worth practicing, ideally somewhere lower stakes first. Overlooked is free during the current beta at beyond overlooked dot com, no password, just an email link. I'm Gracen. Talk soon.